It’s human nature to judge one another. There’s really no getting around this fact; it’s too BIG an obstacle, unless we make a serious effort to do so.
Judgement is the 12,000 pound elephant in the room with us that nobody wants to face. Certainly, nobody wants to admit that it just poo’d on the floor and the stench is permeating every molecule of air we breathe.
We do the job of judging others because it’s simple. It’s quick. It’s convenient. It fits the narrative. It furthers the agenda. It advances the objective. Yes. The job of judgment pays well but it’s a disservice to humanity, which is exactly why it stinks. The job of judgment is a job for no one but the trash collector.
Our job is not to judge but to encourage.
Our job is not to determine who deserves but to realize everyone deserves the same consideration and understanding.
Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. That is not our business, and in fact, it is nobody’s business. What we are asked to do is to love, and this love itself will render both ourselves and our neighbors worthy, if anything can. –Thomas Merton
Our job is to stand alone and together as non-judgmental friends and allies of ourselves and each other.
You see, our judgment doesn’t stop with the kid down the street or the man at the grocery store or the woman at the airport. We judge ourselves even more harshly than we judge others.
It’s the judgment of ourselves and our inability to forgive ourselves for past indiscretions that causes us to look past the 12,000 pound elephant in the room and plug our noses to the stench of the judgement of and in each other.
A curious mind is never judgmental; a judgmental mind is never curious. One cannot exist in the presence of the other.
We must make the effort to clean up, open up, and empty the room of judgement for good.
Give me your thoughts on judgment. Have you judged yourself or someone else wrongly -or- have you been the recipient of the wrongful judgment of others? How did it make you feel and what lesson did you learn from the experience?